Life is bothersome and not too many people see the solutions to their problems right away. Those persons who encounter problems are not likely to let these issues go ignored but are willing to see with eyes wide open and face life’s situations by not necessarily with an all out confrontation head on but by verbalizing feelings as one of many forms of communication.
For those who have nowhere to go, many people seem to come to ‘Kali-Maw’ for her advice. ‘Kali-Maw’ seems to possess the wisdom to find out what motivates a person to feel victimized in the first place, to clarify why those expectations have not been met by the alleged victims and to help people understand their experiences and utilize her ‘gift’ of guiding people towards better ways of living.
These are co-workers that she has not spoken with from many years ago and some are new ones that seem to disclose more of what a professional counselor is usually paid to listen. For example, the next door neighbor confided many times in the past year about a broken marriage with her husband ‘Lazy Golly’, who already has a record for domestic violence.
Because the more materialistic ‘Busy Golly’ is already fed up with her husband’s lack of ambition, both motor mouths are definitely not compatible with each other. Both ‘Kali-Maw’ and the sister of ‘Busy Golly’ tried to talk to the couple but there was no hope for further reconciliation between the two. The communication barrier has broken down to the point of divorce because both are too strong willed to shut up.
What may benefit one person by letting out steam for the other person to know may not always reflect what is really going on inside the person’s mind in the first place, especially when logic gives way to emotions and where judgment is compromised with violence.
This goes to show that life must move onward (for these people) and there is no turning back to the once friendly and casual greetings followed by air kisses along with some customary sniffing sounds made by some of our own kin folks, as another example.
That Saturday would have been another wedding to sponsor by both ‘Shiva-Paw’ and ‘Kali-Maw’. But both have decided to opt out of these tiresome events with relatives and avoided the fake enjoyment in public. There was no real need to tell anyone the reason for not attending these social events and be with other friends who tend to gossip more about people than be honest with each other.
These sorts of invitations are for those special people who have the monetary means to gift well and those who refuse to participate should not be at fault whatsoever. The truth is simply not being able to afford sponsorship and the catch is being at fault for not obliging to give especially as relatives!
The thought of gifting even a small amount may count for some but the praise for others is better than not showing up at all. The invitations have almost stopped due to in part of not giving a damn about spending money on people who expect something in return and all for nothing. And once the gifting has stopped so has the invitations.
As in this next example portrays, ‘Squirrel-Ling’ is always right and stubborn like the divorced couple. And in spite of not giving credit to his ‘former’ family unit for telling the truth about what to expect with his future in-laws, ‘Squirrel-Ling’ gives credit to these people (whom he hardly knows well) for putting up with his shenanigans (for now).
Life’s lesson is to watch and learn and to help those in the most need. For those who do not seek or at least do not heed the words of the wise woman, some have already fallen away from a beaten path and divorced themselves from the truth altogether. Somehow these wayward souls seem to find their way back home, eventually.
A discussion with ‘Kali-Maw’ about life on a fine Saturday afternoon of clear blue skies with a nice breeze and while sitting under the porch of our backyard.
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